For a number of years now, the self development industry has been doing what it can to make people realise that they are not victims – to allow them to find that they have an effect on the world. But, in recent years, so many individuals have been conditioned to see themselves as victims.
This is mainly due to what is often referred to as’identity politics’, and that is where just about everyone is put into two groups. Someone is then either going to be an oppressed victim or they will be an oppressive perpetrator.
The Death of the Person
When it comes to what will define whether someone belongs to first or the second group, the colour of their skin, their gender and their sexual orientation will play a huge part. Not only will this stop someone from having the ability to see other people as individuals, it will also prevent them from being able to view themselves as someone.
On the plus side, seeing the world this manner will stop this individual from having to use their brain as much. Through putting people into different boxes and seeing the world as being black and white, they won’t expend as much energy.
So, although having a victim mentality was generally seen as something negative thanks in part to the self development business, it’s become something that’s often viewed as something positive thanks to conditioning from the schooling system and the mainstream press.
Some people would say that this is the result of’Cultural Marxism’, but, whatever the cause is, it’s apparent that certain men and women are often encouraged to view themselves as victims in the present world. Whenever someone has a victim mentality, they can see themselves as being a human being.
They are then likely to feel disempowered on one side, but they will feel as though they are superior human beings on the other. The reason why they will feel superior to other people is they will believe that – unlike the men and women who are oppressing people – they’re not’oppressing’ anyone.
They are not going to feel that certain men and women are empowered human beings that don’t need to oppress anyone to fulfil their needs; this isn’t a dynamic that will exist in their mind. The people that are empowered are then going to be thrown into the same box as the people who do oppress others, and these individuals are going to be immoral in contrast.
A Number of Benefits
This doesn’t mean that their needs won’t be met, however, and this is because their victim status will most likely allow them to get things without needing to give anything in return. Being a victim is then going to let them experience control in an underhand way.
They won’t need to work for anything; they will be entitled to have just about anything they need from the men and women who are allegedly holding them back. It will be like an invisible force exists, and that this force is controlling every part of their life.
A Quantity of Similarities
However, regardless of whether someone has bought into identity politics or just feels like a victim, they are unlikely believe that they have much an effect on their life. Consequently, it will likely be normal for them to feel powerless, helpless, angry and frustrated, among other things.
They may be used to spending time with those who are happy to walk over them and to completely disregard their needs. If they’re in a relationship, they might be with someone who physically abuses themand, if they aren’t, they might have been with people like this in the past.
In regards to their career – that’s when they have one – they may have a job that is deeply unfulfilling. Yet, although they do drains them, it might be seen as the only option that’s available to them.
If they’re on the opposite side of the fence, so to speak, and haven’t been able to have a job, they could believe that the world is attempting to hold them back. Something out there’s then not permitting them to get ahead.
One is then likely to be nothing more than an observer of the reality, meaning that they won’t play a part in the way they experience life. They will be one person who shows up in every experience they have, but this will not matter.
Their ideas, feelings and what they believe about the world and themselves, together with their behavior, will be irrelevant. And what is going to validate this outlook is that they are most likely to spend time with those who experience life in a similar manner.
The reason someone like this considers they don’t have an impact on their reality is probably due to the fact that they are out of touch with their inner world and are too attached to their thoughts. If they were able to detach from their mind and to get in touch with what is taking place within them, they might be able to see how their outside world is mirroring back what’s taking place in their internal world.
It’s then not they are merely an observer of the reality; they are actually playing a significant part in the way they experience life. Bearing this in mind, they’re not being victimised by others, they are being victimised independently.
though it’s not going to be empowering for them to experience life this manner, it is very likely to be what feels secure at a deeper level.
If they were to look back on their childhood years, they may that is wasn’t safe for them to express themselves. This would have induced them to associate staying small with being secure and it would have set them up to feel comfortable with being treated poorly.
In regards to letting go of a victim mentality, an individual might need to reach out for outside support. This is something which can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.